Author Archives: Melanie

The issue is not just that today society members have trouble saying no, the problem is that this means there are no real Yes’s either. And that is a drama. We are somewhere in limbo, between wanting to connect and not knowing how to connect really. The theme: of course “Boundaries” Where were my boundariesContinue reading “Once you know how to say NO, you can truly say YES!”

Are you sometimes torn between meditating and doing the dishes? Do you feel undecided between taking your dog for a walk and working on your business project? I would describe my perception of this as the validation system. If I ask myself, how many points do I get for 30 minutes of meditation? 30 minutesContinue reading “Our validation system”

We have it deeply ingrained in us. You have to be the best or at least good enough, to get what you want. We have been nurturing an elbow society for so many generations and we have to realize the consequence. In a world where the success of one is the failure of another, thereContinue reading “Competition….”

I remember in the years where I was a Jesus follower I was very impressed about the bible passage where Jesus asks, who is my mother, who is my brother. And all the passage that point attention to the relations we have. We have the biologic relations and we have the soul connections. At theContinue reading “When you loose your friends and family”

NO – I won’t take your suppression anymore, your degrading, shaming, violating and disrespecting. NO – I will stand up for myself and set my boundaries, tell you to not do that anymore, I will work on my protection, get friends that support me and help me when needed. I will learn to love myself,Continue reading “No more bypassing anger”

Do you sometimes feel angry cause someone did not give you the recognition you deserve? Here is one of my stories of catching myself. A friend came for a visit and I offered her a cup of tea. I chose a cup for her from my best cups, the ones that I know she likesContinue reading “Recognition”

In the madness of corona lock downs and restrictions we feel as if our freedom is taken away. And true so it is. How can I relate to this missing freedom in my inner world? A discovery journey When I think about my own personal freedom I think of the many situations that I feelContinue reading “My Freedom”

The word used so much these days and what does it mean? I would say there is plenty of meanings, but mainly it’s the process of becoming conscious of our unconscious programs. The unconscious is a great part of our being. We learn for example how to drive a car and whilst first we haveContinue reading “Awakening”

Totally inspired by https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/chitheads-from-embodied-philosophy/id1046733414?i=1000499285394 This was my morning audio treat and I felt so encouraged that I wanted to do a summary of what has touched me. The place where miracles happen is the place of integrated shadows. The place that is not fighting the “dark” side, but that is and has been transforming andContinue reading “The place where miracles happen”

I feel like I should have been giving this some thought a long time ago – LOL or is that an emotion? Should I say “I emotion that I should have…..” Well, maybe it’s simply a judgment born of my unconscious (or now partly becoming conscious…) conditioning value system. But lets dive into this together,Continue reading “Emotions and feelings – What’s the difference?”