Author Archives: Melanie

What is stress? Stress is when we are in a tight situation and need to find our way through, such as being born. You are being in a tight situation and there needs to be something different happening now. The stress gets so big that the waters break and you get driven out of theContinue reading “Stress management – why we need it”

It’s long known, what we learn as little children, we repeat in our lives as adults, we program it as “right” unconsciously. If we do not do the work of identifying where we have been treated “wrongly” and that it was NOT our fault, than we stay stuck in repeating the same treatment to ourselves.Continue reading “And I promise to treat myself badly…..too….”

Let’s start with setting it clear that rage is quite a high rank emotion. If we compare it with powerlessness, hopelessness, feeling frustrated and lonely…. Once we get in touch with our anger we have nearly met the point of turn around. But we have a big problem, that is the way society looks atContinue reading “The rage emotion”

The issue is not just that today society members have trouble saying no, the problem is that this means there are no real Yes’s either. And that is a drama. We are somewhere in limbo, between wanting to connect and not knowing how to connect really. The theme: of course “Boundaries” Where were my boundariesContinue reading “Once you know how to say NO, you can truly say YES!”

Are you sometimes torn between meditating and doing the dishes? Do you feel undecided between taking your dog for a walk and working on your business project? I would describe my perception of this as the validation system. If I ask myself, how many points do I get for 30 minutes of meditation? 30 minutesContinue reading “Our validation system”

We have it deeply ingrained in us. You have to be the best or at least good enough, to get what you want. We have been nurturing an elbow society for so many generations and we have to realize the consequence. In a world where the success of one is the failure of another, thereContinue reading “Competition….”

I remember in the years where I was a Jesus follower I was very impressed about the bible passage where Jesus asks, who is my mother, who is my brother. And all the passage that point attention to the relations we have. We have the biologic relations and we have the soul connections. At theContinue reading “When you loose your friends and family”

NO – I won’t take your suppression anymore, your degrading, shaming, violating and disrespecting. NO – I will stand up for myself and set my boundaries, tell you to not do that anymore, I will work on my protection, get friends that support me and help me when needed. I will learn to love myself,Continue reading “No more bypassing anger”

Do you sometimes feel angry cause someone did not give you the recognition you deserve? Here is one of my stories of catching myself. A friend came for a visit and I offered her a cup of tea. I chose a cup for her from my best cups, the ones that I know she likesContinue reading “Recognition”

In the madness of corona lock downs and restrictions we feel as if our freedom is taken away. And true so it is. How can I relate to this missing freedom in my inner world? A discovery journey When I think about my own personal freedom I think of the many situations that I feelContinue reading “My Freedom”