What is unconditional love? It sounds so big. In a therapy last week the facilitator said to me: “Do you allow me to send you unconditional love? “
Yes sure, why not….but what is it and what does it all mean 🙂
My pondering this morning has connected some loops. Whilst I am quite puzzled by the idea of what really is unconditional and the overuse of the statement for unconditional love, I feel now a bit closer to the “true meaning”. The title of the article probably gives the biggest hint. Unconditional love is divine love and it has nothing to do with doing, (thinking about it, it can not be something that can be send) , but all with a state of being and awareness.
Whilst writing I get aware of the unwordable qualities of the thing we are trying to talk about. But there are some simple things I feel that can be said, such as: it is my intention to love unconditional all of me, all of my judgments, all of my righteousness, my hardness, my softness, my egoistic self, my inner child, my pain, my choices.
The biggest trap for me on my spiritual path is again and again my own self judgment and my “expectations”. And the remedy to release myself is to allow myself to be all of me and to acknowledge the beauty and divinity of all the parts, including the shadows.
Unconditional means : I have no expectation of you to change or to go away. So when I am in emotional healing work with my self I openly invite the part of myself , which I struggle with and I take the position to not wanting to change this part, but simply to acknowledge, to get to know, to be in respect with.
And yes, this sounds crazy when we are taking about the shadow emotions, cause surely we just want to get ride of them, but the truth is they are equally divine and necessary to complete the whole picture. And as soon as we exclude them we are in judgment and away from unconditional love. And as soon as we turn towards them in the hope for them to go away, we are in judgement.
It’s like trying to not be attracted by a certain person, whom you deeply fall for and pretend that you are “not interested”, just cause you want to activate the rubber band effect :-). It’s tough to pretend, and when we approach our emotions with the idea to come close and then we can change them, they will stay cautious and feel exactly what are your intentions. Can the trust or is this the therapy trap.
So here comes the unconditional love, the position that just is present and doesn’t impose or judge or have any hidden motives.
It’s a tough duty to check oneself for the hidden motives 😉 but it’s an interesting and expanding journey.
Where the unconditional love is, there everything will fall into place and that what had to fight so hard for it’s existence can let go and transform without effort and without fight.
May unconditional love be with you.