As it is a subject I come across over and over again, I feel like writing about it once more in a different way of expressing how I perceive the connection between things.
Often I met people (including myself at times LOL) that wonder about the emotions they face and if it is really a good thing to follow them up. Would that not be dwelling in them. And wouldn’t it be wiser to breath and just not “identify” with the emotions?
Well, emotional healing is also a process of dis-identifying, through Identifying. I know I m confusing here on purpose.
Yesterday we read a short story from Eckhard Tolle about a spiritual wise man. People came from everywhere to learn from him. One day the neighbors daughter got pregnant and the parents where pressing her to tell them who is the father. After a long while of pressing her she said its the neighbor, the spiritual teacher. So the angry parents went over there to accuse him and he simply said: Is that so?
The word spread fast and no one came to visit the guy anymore. And when the baby was born they brought it to him to take care of it. And so he did.
After 2 years the mother told her parents with lots of sorrow that the father is actually the guy from the butcher shop and not the spiritual teacher from next door.
So the parents went over there and apologized and took the baby. And the spiritual teacher replied: Is that so?
So there is no holding onto what ever anyone accused you of or identifying with the good thing you just done, by looking after the unloved baby. And sure it is a story with plenty of wisdom.
Still, these type of stories can lead us to the attempt to not value our emotions and to simply try and be a wise man/women. Something that has it’s value too, however if there are emotions talking to us, the act of ignoring them and following the brains understanding of what is right, is not the source of wisdom. The true wisdom gets born out of going through that valley of feeling all that stuff to it’s fullest.
And from the point of saturation starts something new. And only than. That is why we often feel that we have pondered and dwell so much over the same old stories and still feel the same upset about them. It’s because we never went to the end of the story. We always stopped us when it seamed to get pointless.
Remember what they say about birth. Contractions will get more and more and just when you feel you can’t take it any longer and you go to surrender you will enter the third phase of birth. And the baby will be born.
When it’s about birth we know what is going on and we act accordingly. But when it’s about emotional baggage, we are educated to not dwell o them, to not give them importance (validation), to get a grip and be stronger and in control (which btw I agree to being in control (save) just with a little different view onto what this safety means).
So the invitation to practice emotional healing is the same then the invitation to surrender.
Surrender to the fact that you are human ad we learn and develop through our emotional body. Surrender to allowing the fact that we know anger, we know hate, we know shame, we know fear, separation, abandonment, jealousy, greed, powerlessness….as well as love, joy, satisfaction, empathy, compassion, connection, union.
And as we walk through all of the spectrum at times we might catch a glimps of the true glorious miracle of live.