It’s long known, what we learn as little children, we repeat in our lives as adults, we program it as “right” unconsciously.
If we do not do the work of identifying where we have been treated “wrongly” and that it was NOT our fault, than we stay stuck in repeating the same treatment to ourselves.
That means we end up treating ourselves disrespectfully, we don’t validate our feelings, we don’t allow us to be compassionate and loving to ourselves.
A viscous circle that can be broken and it starts with becoming aware of it.
Are you being kind to yourself? Can you allow yourself to be kind? Have you got a clear idea what being kind means? (it’s not allowing you to binge and feeling sorry for yourself, that is not the same than being kind to yourself 😉
Are you ok to embrace what you feel whatever it is?
Honestly it’s a tough journey and we can support each other on the process of learning.
Observe yourself, be your own “doctor”, ask yourself how you feel and tell yourself how you feel often. Ask yourself what it needs.
When you discover a part of self punishment or self hatred, embrace it fully. Understand it was there to help you to survive. You did well! And now you may have the blessing to create a change. No matter how long you where in that pattern, it’s not that anyone in the same shoes could have done it better.
You can also simply start with small gestures and changes. Integrate something you enjoy into your day/week/month
Take yourself out on a date once a month, have a bath once a week and take 10 minutes to drink a meditative cup of tea….
Learning to treat ourselves different is not an easy task and it does not hapen over night. It takes action to shine our light onto the wounded spots and it takes work to create the new way of living and loving ourselves and live.
Get in touch for guided journey work : melanie77 @ tutamail.com