Let’s start with setting it clear that rage is quite a high rank emotion. If we compare it with powerlessness, hopelessness, feeling frustrated and lonely….
Once we get in touch with our anger we have nearly met the point of turn around.
But we have a big problem, that is the way society looks at anger. It’s very frowned upon and therefor we have learned to frown upon our own anger and make it as unnoticed as we can.
If we hear the story of a human that has being raped and tortured and suppressed for many years and had to endure a lot of unbearable shit, we would so allow this person to be angry and we would feel compassion for their healing path.
But when we look at our anger, we feel it’s not really a problem….It’s just like jealousy of the little brother or sister or feeling not loved enough….just sort of pity stuff, nothing to really be angry about.
But is this way of thinking really helpful?
Would we be in touch with our anger, we could hear every little thought about others that annoy us. We would be able to hear the warning signs before we either explode or implode and harm others and ourselves.
Anger is a wonderful sign saying: Hold on, look, feel, acknowledge, embrace, learn…..
So here is an invitation to work with anger and rage:
Set yourself a save space and start talking to your anger, tell it that you are curious and you want to listen to it/him/her. An apology to the part you’ve been ignoring can also be very helpful.
If you have trouble getting in touch with your anger you can search for a small thing that annoyed you and let yourself feel it fully. Use the story to make it bigger. Make save room for your anger to surface and hold space for yourself.
And when you are nicely connected ask yourself if there are more situations in live that felt like that. When was the first time you felt like that? Just ask, don’t think about the answer much, let is arise if it wants to, simply create the room.
There is a huge amount of shaming about anger. Especially in spiritual circles it can be so though. I often discover myself going on the spiritual concept path cause really I m trying to be a good girl…..Our subconscious is so clever 😉
Anger is powerful, it helps us to find out what we don’t want and therefor is so important to find out what we want.
And of course you can go the path of non-attachment and focus on not wanting or rejecting anything, but that is not what non-attachment is about. At least I don’t perceive it that way.
As long as we have an emotional body we can use it for our journey here on earth. Just as we have a physical body to use and help us through this experience. And both enable us to understand our selfs mission and they help us to create alignment between our bodies. The physical body gets illness when we are out of alignment and the emotional body brings up emotions that are unpleasant, so we start listening.
Every emotion is an invitation to listen. Rage and anger have great stories to tell and are great helpers to reach into the depth of your being.
Let’s embrace them and create a save anger haven.
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