The issue is not just that today society members have trouble saying no, the problem is that this means there are no real Yes’s either. And that is a drama.
We are somewhere in limbo, between wanting to connect and not knowing how to connect really.
The theme: of course “Boundaries”
Where were my boundaries broken? Where did I take more than I could digest? How do I allow myself to step out and say NO – free of guilt ? How do I become able to say YES with all my heart.
Understanding that not daring to say NO, means you also wont be able to say Yes is a good start. Cause we do want to be able to say yes, don’t we? Well, I do . And I can see how relationships suffer from exactly that point. No real NOs’ and no real YESes.
In our history we had to tolerate a lot, women had to tolerate men wanting to have them to use and abuse. Children had to tolerate the shaping of the parents, cutting away all aspects of them that where misunderstood and unwanted. Adapting to survive.
Can you just imagine the times that someone wanted to say NO, but had to endure anyway?
Can you feel it?
And sometimes we even feel confused by our NOs’. We feel like we should be happy that someone wants our attention and to be close to us…..but it’s like we can’t really allow connection.
Do you know the feeling of wanting to say NO? Do you know situations like staying busy, in order to not have room for intimacy to happen?
Do you allow yourself to really take the time for your needs?
A theme that needs work and volunteers to do this work, so it changes in us and in the common consciousness field.
If you want to work on your own boundaries and you’re looking for help (in German, English or Portuguese) get in touch to schedule an online meeting through Skype or messenger. And we can go diving together.
Thanks for your courage.