Do you sometimes feel angry cause someone did not give you the recognition you deserve?
Here is one of my stories of catching myself. A friend came for a visit and I offered her a cup of tea. I chose a cup for her from my best cups, the ones that I know she likes the shape. I gave her the tea and she asked me if she can have another cup. I asked why, I chose that one specially for you thinking you’d like the shape. And she replied, yes I do, but it has a little chip at the side and I don’t like to drink from cups that are chipped.
Now inside I felt straight away pissed of, how can she be so petty about this small chip…..And I also was trying to correct myself and not judging other people for their way of living their live. It’s not a difficult thing to change the cup. I said she surely can chose another cup and wash up the other I had given her. Hoping that might make me feel better. But it didn’t. I just did not get satisfaction and my mind wondered into blaming her petty habit of not drinking of a chipped cup. My mind was spitting furiously about all the things she does and says….I worked out that I was triggered 🙂
Now several hours later I started to digest the story and the quickest way of doing this for me is
- Asking myself, what should she have done or said: “She should have been pleased about my loving act of choosing a cup for her, remembering and considering her preferable shape. She should have also appreciated that at my house she gets a tea that she does not have at home and that she can use my “expensive” (yes, there is another hidden program…) honey to sweeten it. She should have recognized my goodness and my loving ways towards her. She should have been grateful and thankful.
- I turn things around: Am I grateful to myself (and/or others). Do I recognize the gifts I receive ? Do I express gratitude and thankfulness?
Well, I could straight away find my self not giving myself enough self recognition and it was something I can do straight away to heal .
Of course we can look of where this is coming from ….and it’s good at times. But in this moment it’s just straight to the cure.
Giving myself recognition for what I do for myself and others. I started writing a thank you letter to myself, to life and to all the other people who are with me in this experience. And my soul is filling up with joy when I read it. It feels like a little step with a lot of power.
The work of becoming aware and creating change and solutions. I love it.