Emotions and feelings – What’s the difference?

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I feel like I should have been giving this some thought a long time ago – LOL or is that an emotion? Should I say “I emotion that I should have…..”

Well, maybe it’s simply a judgment born of my unconscious (or now partly becoming conscious…) conditioning value system.

But lets dive into this together, as I think it’s a great one to ponder about.

To get straight to the point, feelings are things like pain, heaviness, density, lightness, warmth, cold….

Emotions are things like: anger, sadness, fear, jealousy….

But of course there are cross lines and there is what we call a value system that connects certain emotions to certain feelings. Plus some hard wiring. For example if we feel pain, due to an injury it’s generally not a question of interpretation, but a hard wired information system of your physical body, trying to help you to survive.

However we can feel pain that seams to have no physical evidence and feels just as real, so this is why it is complicated to distinguish the both at times, but one of the second things I like in defining emotions vs feelings is the aspect of consciousness.

Lets say we feel sad (or better we notice the emotion of sadness in us). If we are making space for “sadness” and translate it into feeling terms we may end up feeling heavy, maybe cloudy or grey or like having petrified legs….The way how an emotion expresses itself as a feeling can be very different but there are some simple connections that we recognize instinctively.

Once we enter the feeling language we have passed one important border, which is the border of judgment. In general judgment is what makes us stuck in an emotion. We become ” attached” (I’m really not keen on the word, it’s been so negatively overused….) to the emotion till we learn to feel it. Or even more: till we allow ourselves to feel it

So simple slogan: Feel it to heal it.

The emotion is only the gateway to help you recognize the judgment and it can led you to your feeling. Once you are in touched with the feeling – practise presence.

If I feel guided to ponder with my mind about the feelings, there is no reason why I should not. I like to set things in balance and it’s great to be able to have complex thoughts and mind constructs, equally great to be able to feel and allow the magic of being alive.

I may for example find through consciously allowing myself to be angry I find the way to explore an inner wound that I have not been able to feel before, because at the time I experienced it there was no safe space for this to happen and all I needed to do is survive. Now if I judge anger as an emotion to be avoided, (because it’s such a “low” vibration…..and other kind of judgmental thoughts we may have about it), I will not be able to use or even discover this gateway to my forgotten wound. In fact I keep on adding wounds by not validating what I feel (emotion).

Through allowing and welcoming the emotion of anger and using the story line to connect with the emotion I can get into a deep communication with what has been calling my attention. It generally leads to unfinished pain and in some cases we are invited to reconstruct our value system.

As I like to mention, I am here to help discover more about your emotions and help you translate them into feelings as well as rewriting your inner reality. Just get in touched by e-mail: emotionalhealingportugal@gmail.com.

With love


Published by Melanie

I love to create and hold safe spaces that allow us to explore the depth of our beings. I do this on the physical level at our homes in Portugal as well as in vibrational ways though being present with people during sessions online or in person. I am also an adventurous homey, that loves to live in and with nature, exploring and living alternatives ways of live, education, health and entertainment.

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