The drama of being “good”

Good people don’t _____________- fill in whatever comes to mind.

Good people aren’t angry, aren’t judgmental, forgive instead of hate, don’t eat junk food, do their homework…..

And what if it turns out that you aren’t “good”? Because you actually hate him/her are so anoid about them, because you are totally unwilling to forgive, to let go of your judgment, because you do eat junkfood and you are totally powerless over it…..and you have no drive to do your homework!

Well, congratulations, you are about to discover more about yourself. And again this is all stuff that has grown during my own journey of self discovery. Many things sound like, I know that already since ages…..It feels like being in school and I get presented with a task that I had learnd to master 3 grades ago. If my responds is snippy and self defensive, I know – o o , there is something I haven’t allowed to feel yet. No matter of how much I already “know” about it.

In this society of good and bad principals we have tried to be good very much and this comes in all forms and shapes. The new age has plenty of being good dogmas, just as the catholic church and plenty of other moral philosophies, including any fixed what is right ideas, so we are subconsciously programmed to be good to aprove our own standards.

And yes it’s useful to define things as right and wrong, like killing someone is in a practical sense not right. Allowing yourself to explore what you feel, what need hasn’t been met and taking responsibility to care for your needs is everything that will help to prevent any killing or hurting others. If we kill anyone, we simply kill a part of us that we were so unwilling/unable to listen too (to much pain and no idea of support)…..but lets no go deeper down the rabbit hole 😉

Do you know these moments when you start suspecting that you are totally annoid about someone but you won’t follow up, because you should be GOOD and …..(see list above etc)

Well this is an invitation to experiment being BAD. Not in real, but in your safe space. Take some time and listen to your iner anger, express it on paper or with a trustworthy listener. Dedicate yurself to listening to that part that is so frustrated, angry, pissed of……This can be a very expressive thing or just a writting exercise, anything is ok, as long as you are ok with the idea of taking your own feeling serious. No matter how well you’ve done so far in hidding it.

There is a lot that can come with this, cause especially in the “self development scene” we often have the idea we are so finished with many subjects, such as “Oh, I have forgiven my parents years ago”…..Where? In your head? Or in your heart? And can we really forgive “our parents” – I believe forgiving your parents 100 % is similar to becoming inlightened. It may happen over night, but you need practise and detail work to truly rewrite the program.

So take care of the “bad” parts inside of you – they are part of you too and of course they are not really bad.

#emotionalhealing #lovethebadinyou #thebeinggoodtrap #hatemyparents #howtolove #howtoforgive #howtoheal

Published by Melanie

I love to create and hold safe spaces that allow us to explore the depth of our beings. I do this on the physical level at our homes in Portugal as well as in vibrational ways though being present with people during sessions online or in person. I am also an adventurous homey, that loves to live in and with nature, exploring and living alternatives ways of live, education, health and entertainment.

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