I spend most of my weekend being quite frustrated and it seamed like I just can’t really put my finger on what is wrong.
Yes, I avoid taking the time to stop looking what is wrong, because the result might be even more frustrating and hopeless. So when I finally did, I met Mrs. Self Critisism again. I met her before and we are starting to become familiar. Which is good, because I start recognising her faster when she’s around.
I realised how wasted life seams when there is no enjoyment. It’s never about getting things done. It’s about appreciation for everything we do. (yes that is not a new discovery)
In my inner journey work I have found that generally things comes down to Self criticism and judging myself hardly. Now we can argue that self criticism is usefull and for sure there is a valid point to it, but when it doesn’t bring me anything but frustration it’s not helpful.
And all boils down to remembering that
- I am totally ok as I am
- there is nothing I can do to proof that I am a better person
- I am always good enough
- validating my feelings and the still unseen pain within it (plus taking time to grief and process)
I belief it’s easy to guess, why we do the self criticism, but that is me, someone passionate about human behaviour. So I will share what I understand what is happening.
We learn to criticis ourselfes when we are little, by our oarents and care takers, we learn what is a “good” thing to do and what is a “bad” thing to do. Now the bad things don’t really exist, they are just signs of stuff that is out of balance and needs attention. By casting them even more into the shadow world they get even more frustrated. But these energies we can not just “visualise into the light” or pretend they don’t exist. They just become stronger and stronger “demons” – forces that work in the unseen, cause noone is willing to see them!
The work I do is re integrational and transformational.
- Inviting, inviting, inviting,
- embracing, embracing, embracing
- being patient……no pressure – just gentleness
- what do I need……what will make me feel a little better
🙂 – it can sound so simple and feel so hard.
So here I am on a monday morning, ready to ride the waves of the week and embracing my Self critics.