Times of fundamental changes often bring emotional outbreaks.
For example when there is a relationship break up, the end of a job/career, the end of a stage in live that we got used to.
These emotional outbreaks (anger/fear/insecurity) often seam totally unreasonable from the outside, but the person within the story is not able to see this, because they are going through this transformational stage.
Now these emotional outbreaks don’t come from nothing. It is always a responds to a history of not having your needs met and the unconscious coping mechanisms that we use.
Certain live events can tear down these walls (coping mechanisms) and make the dam crash and there isn’t much one can do just waiting till the river flows quiet again, once the masses of water have flushed away and there is a regular stream.
Knowing about this helps the one going through this, plus the people surrounding.
During emotional outbreaks we often use anger directed towards others, blackmailing techniques etc…. in order to secure our outer world.
Once we are through with this, the next step is regaining your power by fully assuming your responsibility. That is when the water calms down again.
If you are going through a phase like that don’t forget you can ask for help. It’s not your fault that you feel that way and you may need help understanding and going through this hard times.
Or maybe you are on the other side, being the “accused” one. You may have done things “wrong”, but generally because you haven’t been given the right indication of where the borders are, so how could you have done it right.
These scenarios can be very tricky and it’s so helpful to have good communication and knowledge about border hygiene 😉
In the end of the day, the great emotional outbreaks also have great potential of learning and growing strong through the experience. Still when you are in it, get the help you need!