Believes are something that gets passed on for several reasons and as we come to understand more about this we have more options to take choices.
Believing in the same values than our ancestors did (starting with parents!) means -BELONGING! to some parts of our brain. It means SECURITY!
This is the first important thing to understand. And it’s not a conscious choice. It’s a hard wired base program!
But how do we change believes and values? After all they did change over time all the time in every society…..but for now I ll talk about what we can do today to consciously change believes.
Lets take an example. Let’s say you truly believe in your heart that the way forward in your profeessional live for you is, to chose what you love doing most. This may however leave you with the sensation that you are not working, cause you are simply enjoying to much what you are doing. Coming from a family background were the message that life is no fun and we all have to work were strongly empasised, this creates a conflict!
You either have to go on this new believe road on your own and feel totally insecure or you stay attached to the family values and create yourself unconsciously the reality that proves the values of your family!
We often think we have left family values long behind, but this may not be 100 % true when we come to the subconscious mind. The reality we create will tell 🙂 (but not to be judged….)
What is needed is some kind of communication and realisation of these differences. Often the change happens as a fight responds (i.e. teenage years – we do everything against our parents….). Or we have a silent flight responds and something inside us just doesn’t let us step into our new believe cause we aren’t aware of it. And of course there is the resignation as an answer to this dilema.
The basic ingredients for change are not that hard. Still it’s work that needs to be done.
When we want to live in a new believe reality we need to look at the unconscious believes and our inner responds to it. We need to work out if we truly are ready to step into the new that may make us feel insecure at first.
We need to workout what resources we have to support our journey. And we need to leave in peace. Honouring that others before us thought differently and that in fact we still are belonging to them, through wise love and honouring their choices and not through unconcsious attachments.
From heart to heart