I m sure I wrote about this before, still I want to share my waking up thoughts on this, as it is a very fascinating subject.
I used to not like the idea of non-attachment. To me it sounded like the stoners saying: Relax, all is cool! And really I felt this is just a lie, they do not accept their personal pain, they are on the run…..
And this is far from serenity, it’s just a dissociating method, helped by substances. But even this I won’t demonise, everything has it’s place and value. And I have been running from my demons just often enough, because I was not ready to face them (still an ongoing process for many parts, but today a work in progress)
Non-attachment seamed to me like another of these strange ideas of not giving value or importance to things. Just be in the moment and not “care”???
Besides if I am in a state of pain I hate it when people tell me just let go! It’s simply not helpful and devaluing my situation. asking me feel wrong again.
But the reality of non-attachment is very different. And today I understand a bit more about this (I believe ;-)) It’s about practising gratitude for everything that I may experience in my live. All the good things, my family, my possessions, my body, my passions….non of this will stay, all will change and none of this is me in my essence. And by bringing this into awareness, gratitude for the moment arises, the moment in which I experience this reality. Knowing that I am in essence all of this and much mure. None of this will be missing when it’s gone, because in essence I am all.
There we go, that is practising non-attachment. Not letting go, but becoming aware of the beautiful things that we have in our lives (temporarily 🙂 from the deep wisdom of our endless centre.