The delicate subject of sexuality, yes I shall write about it. In fact I feel like we all should be talking much more about it. Lifting the veil of secrecy in a slow and appropriate way.
Today’s topic in specific
Why are female sexual energies often not so “spontaneous” than those of men.
I thought this is all due to what we had learnt in early years about sexuality.
I.e. men learn they are great guys if the go for it and there isn’t much warnings or prohibiting.
Girls however get lots of warnings and advice on how to not be a slut…..
Besides the obvious reasons that are natural like men = millions of sperms = outgoing process of ejecting
and women = 1 egg a month = inwards process and holding on to secure new life
I feel that there are for sure the social issues to look at.
But I did however dive into this subject recently myself and also with clients on several occasions and it seams to show that the reason behind sexual stagnancy are more often hidden self-criticism, blind spots of denial of self love than the general social pressure.
Of course things go hand in hand and we deny self love there were we learnt that you “shouldn’t” be like that.
What fascinates me, is that when we follow our emotions, they will lead to the answer and it’s often not what we “thought”. But it gives the Aha effect and rings more true than logic.
So my statement is not a generalisation, but a personal observation out of emotional experience and the process of looking into the deep with myself and others.